All the "good" parents do it. Especially the first timers. You know, baby proofing the home. We painstakingly plug every outlet with a cover, agonize over the top-safety rated carseat, cover every sharp corner with a rubber corner cover, anchor every heavy piece of furniture to the wall, secure every cabinet door, and lock up all the cleaners. We are religious about it; and for good reason, too. We know what's at stake: the safety of our most precious possessions -- our children. When it comes time for schooling, we do something similar. We devote hours to thinking about and comparing schools. Private? Christian? Catholic? Public? Homeschool? Again, for good reason. We know what's at stake: the minds and future of our children. So many times and in so many ways throughout the course of our childrens' lives we are intentional and purposeful about making decisions on their behalf. But what about when it comes to their spirituality? So often that gets relegated to the pastor or the Sunday School teacher. Othertimes, it gets lost by the wayside in the hustle and bustle of choosing the best sport or lesson for them. Think about that in light of the baby-proofing phenomenon. Would we dare say, "I don't have to baby proof my home. The home safety police or Child Services will come out and do that for me!" What if we treated our children's schooling choice that way? "I'll just drop them off at the nearest school and surely they'll absorb something!" We wouldn't dare neglect to send them to elementary school, but many parents forget that kids are just as much a spiritual being as they are a physical being - and that spiritual side of them needs tended and nurtured.
Parents, I believe that God is calling us to be more intentional about our childrens' spirituality than anything else in their lives. More than which doctor, what sport, which school, or even what career. One of the main purposes He has for us as parents is to shepherd their hearts toward Him. Jesus taught us to pray, "Not my will, but thine be done." That IS God's will for our children - to be shepherded into His fold. To have their hearts turned toward and tuned into their Heavenly Father. So as you shuffle school applications or insert outlet covers, be proactive about instilling spiritual truths from the Bible into your children. Use everday opportunities and occurences to speak to them of God and His story. Shape their world view by using the truth contained in Scriptures. Spiritually care for them daily. They're worth it!
Real Life Army Wife
Saturday, March 17, 2012
Monday, February 27, 2012
So many things...
Another six weeks has passed since my last blog entry and our life continues to blaze on into 2012. The end of January brought another birthday for me. #33 was not so kind to me as I spent the majority of the week surrounding my big day SICK! So sick, in fact that I had to take a rain check on a much anticipated road trip to Seagrove, NC...home to some of the best pottery in the U.S. I will be sure and hold that soldier to his rain check promise!
After teaching a class last semester at our on-post ladies Bible study, I decided to take some "time off" from actively serving on the forefront of that ministry and just be ministered to, with occasional bouts of serving when I was led by God. Or so I thought. In January, when I was supposed to be down-timing it (but still enjoying serving the Lord through our music ministry at Chapel), I had two opportunities fall into my lap and felt the Lord tugging me toward both. One is helping to select the leadership team for next year's executive board at our ladies Bible study and the other is helping out a dear friend by acting as Administrative Coordinator within the Bible study group so she could tend to her terminally ill mother. In hindsight, I now see that the Lord was leading me to keep my plate empty so He could fill it at the right time! Otherwise he knows I would have signed up to teach another study! The work has been rewarding and manageable - not too demanding on my time but still giving me an opportunity to serve Him in a big way.
After about 5 months of daily struggling with a VERY strong-willed two year old, hubby and I believe we MAY be seeing a glow which would signal a possible light at the end of this tunnel. This has just begun to happen within the last couple of weeks. I don't want to speak too quickly and have to take words back later, but having been so tuned into her behavior and attitude issues we can definitely say that things have lightened up at least a little bit as of late. This is DEFINITELY an answer to prayer and a much needed break from repeated and disappointing moments of discipline. Our prayer is that God helps us to break her will, not her spirit. It may be too soon to declare us "out of the woods", but we are thankful for even this slight reprieve. It has given me a chance to refocus and see her more as a person, as a child of God and not so often as the object of my correction.
I, too, have joined the world of Pinterest and have not been disappointed with the creative ideas floating around out there! I was so hesitant to join in light of the frequent comments I'd been hearing of the website literally being a timewarp. Last semester the last thing I needed was anything that would demand more time from me. But I endulged myself this semester and have enjoyed being inspired and learning to craft. I have begun to delve into the world of stamping, Cricut machines, bow making, paper crafts, wreath making, among others. My favorite thing about crafting is making gifts for others. For our family, I made this banner that allows us to celebrate each family member's birthday and attach the appropriate number for their age.
Speaking of birthdays, our first born just celebrated his #6. Can't believe that! I know I hear it all the time and it sounds so cliche, but when you experience it...it TRULY is hard to believe that my first baby is a 6 year old! We celebrated in style with a birthday weekend. Daddy came home from a week in the field just in time to celebrate with us. Our 'Bama grandparents made the trip over and joined us as well. He received so many wonderful and great gifts, overwhelmingly fun blessings. His dad and I gave him a new "big boy" bike as promised since he finally buckled down and learned how to ride his li'l kid bike WITHOUT training wheels! During lunchtime on the day of his birthday, sister and I carried a cookie cake to his school as well as a McDonald's lunch (per his request) and celebrated with his Kindergarten class as well. We also had a party in our home, inviting a few close friends to join us for a "Lego Birthday Party". I think the weekend was a big hit with that big boy!
Our favorite chaplain has been faithfully plugging away at his garrison ministry. We led a marriage retreat a couple of weekends ago in nearby Asheville and have a couple more planned for this quarter. Hubby's brigade finally brought in a chaplain and so he finished up his time as acting-brigade chaplain and is somewhat relieved to be back to his battalion chaplain duties only. A new HHC commander and battalion commander have both been installed and that change has breathed a fresh breath of air into the life of his battalion. Perhaps the biggest news for our family is that we will be PCSing (permanent change of station) soon to Ft Campbell, KY. I say soon, but as of this writing we still don't have any paperwork or official orders. But we are expecting a move in either May or June. Ft Campbell is located on the KY/TN border and will put us living 3 hours or less from my side of the family and only 6 hours from Hubby's parents! Thank you, God! We are excited to live so close to family at this time in the life of our family and with our kids at the ages they are. We are already dreaming of weekend trips and of meeting the grandparents halfway to do the "kid drop-off"! Life will get alot crazier before we get to the happiness of those moments, but I am focusing on several different things to keep the anxiety monster away. First, the Army may give us the orders but I firmly believe God has His hand on their decisions. In otherwords, we have given our lives and our family to Him and we are only going where He wants us when He wants us to. Second, change is good. It makes us into better people. And moving means we'll have to clean and purge our drawers and closets. And, man, that feels good! Third, it's exciting to see God work out all the details of our needs when we don't stress and when we let go. I'm looking forward to this adventure and can't wait to catalog how God carries us there!
The Bible study I am in this semester is the book "A Praying Life" by Paul Miller. The Lord is teaching me so much through this detailed study of prayer. One thing He brought out to me recently through this study was Isaiah 57:15 "For this is what the high and exalted One says— he who lives forever, whose name is holy: 'I live in a high and holy place, but also with the one who is contrite and lowly in spirit, to revive the spirit of the lowly and to revive the heart of the contrite'." I have read this verse before, but I don't think I've thought about it in the context of prayer. Isaiah is conveying the truth that our God is infinte and yet personal. The response of my heart to this text was, "Why? Why would God who resides in the splendor and majesty of the realm of glorious heaven also choose to be present with the broken, sorrowful, oppressed, crushed, and scared? The depressed, the outcast, the junkies in the backally, the homeless under the overpass, the abandoned, the messed up? What sense can we make of this? Isaiah tells us the "what" of what God does for those people; He restores and revives them. But why? Through this study of prayer I have come to believe that this is because both places -heaven and the broken- are where God's glory is most demonstratively displayed. In heaven, God rules and reigns supreme without limits and in His fullness. His full glory on display at all times. Where else do those aforementioned people have to go? And to whom else can they turn? Their ONLY hope is in that lofty God coming to their aid. And when He does, ALL glory is His. His strength made perfect in not only our weaknesses, but in our utter inability to do anything for ourselves. I heard a famous preacher once say that God deserves and desires glory more than anything else. In fact, God's ultimate end is the manifestation of His glory. So where else would he seek to reside but the holiness of heaven and the humbleness of human heart?
After teaching a class last semester at our on-post ladies Bible study, I decided to take some "time off" from actively serving on the forefront of that ministry and just be ministered to, with occasional bouts of serving when I was led by God. Or so I thought. In January, when I was supposed to be down-timing it (but still enjoying serving the Lord through our music ministry at Chapel), I had two opportunities fall into my lap and felt the Lord tugging me toward both. One is helping to select the leadership team for next year's executive board at our ladies Bible study and the other is helping out a dear friend by acting as Administrative Coordinator within the Bible study group so she could tend to her terminally ill mother. In hindsight, I now see that the Lord was leading me to keep my plate empty so He could fill it at the right time! Otherwise he knows I would have signed up to teach another study! The work has been rewarding and manageable - not too demanding on my time but still giving me an opportunity to serve Him in a big way.
After about 5 months of daily struggling with a VERY strong-willed two year old, hubby and I believe we MAY be seeing a glow which would signal a possible light at the end of this tunnel. This has just begun to happen within the last couple of weeks. I don't want to speak too quickly and have to take words back later, but having been so tuned into her behavior and attitude issues we can definitely say that things have lightened up at least a little bit as of late. This is DEFINITELY an answer to prayer and a much needed break from repeated and disappointing moments of discipline. Our prayer is that God helps us to break her will, not her spirit. It may be too soon to declare us "out of the woods", but we are thankful for even this slight reprieve. It has given me a chance to refocus and see her more as a person, as a child of God and not so often as the object of my correction.
I, too, have joined the world of Pinterest and have not been disappointed with the creative ideas floating around out there! I was so hesitant to join in light of the frequent comments I'd been hearing of the website literally being a timewarp. Last semester the last thing I needed was anything that would demand more time from me. But I endulged myself this semester and have enjoyed being inspired and learning to craft. I have begun to delve into the world of stamping, Cricut machines, bow making, paper crafts, wreath making, among others. My favorite thing about crafting is making gifts for others. For our family, I made this banner that allows us to celebrate each family member's birthday and attach the appropriate number for their age.
Speaking of birthdays, our first born just celebrated his #6. Can't believe that! I know I hear it all the time and it sounds so cliche, but when you experience it...it TRULY is hard to believe that my first baby is a 6 year old! We celebrated in style with a birthday weekend. Daddy came home from a week in the field just in time to celebrate with us. Our 'Bama grandparents made the trip over and joined us as well. He received so many wonderful and great gifts, overwhelmingly fun blessings. His dad and I gave him a new "big boy" bike as promised since he finally buckled down and learned how to ride his li'l kid bike WITHOUT training wheels! During lunchtime on the day of his birthday, sister and I carried a cookie cake to his school as well as a McDonald's lunch (per his request) and celebrated with his Kindergarten class as well. We also had a party in our home, inviting a few close friends to join us for a "Lego Birthday Party". I think the weekend was a big hit with that big boy!
Our favorite chaplain has been faithfully plugging away at his garrison ministry. We led a marriage retreat a couple of weekends ago in nearby Asheville and have a couple more planned for this quarter. Hubby's brigade finally brought in a chaplain and so he finished up his time as acting-brigade chaplain and is somewhat relieved to be back to his battalion chaplain duties only. A new HHC commander and battalion commander have both been installed and that change has breathed a fresh breath of air into the life of his battalion. Perhaps the biggest news for our family is that we will be PCSing (permanent change of station) soon to Ft Campbell, KY. I say soon, but as of this writing we still don't have any paperwork or official orders. But we are expecting a move in either May or June. Ft Campbell is located on the KY/TN border and will put us living 3 hours or less from my side of the family and only 6 hours from Hubby's parents! Thank you, God! We are excited to live so close to family at this time in the life of our family and with our kids at the ages they are. We are already dreaming of weekend trips and of meeting the grandparents halfway to do the "kid drop-off"! Life will get alot crazier before we get to the happiness of those moments, but I am focusing on several different things to keep the anxiety monster away. First, the Army may give us the orders but I firmly believe God has His hand on their decisions. In otherwords, we have given our lives and our family to Him and we are only going where He wants us when He wants us to. Second, change is good. It makes us into better people. And moving means we'll have to clean and purge our drawers and closets. And, man, that feels good! Third, it's exciting to see God work out all the details of our needs when we don't stress and when we let go. I'm looking forward to this adventure and can't wait to catalog how God carries us there!
The Bible study I am in this semester is the book "A Praying Life" by Paul Miller. The Lord is teaching me so much through this detailed study of prayer. One thing He brought out to me recently through this study was Isaiah 57:15 "For this is what the high and exalted One says— he who lives forever, whose name is holy: 'I live in a high and holy place, but also with the one who is contrite and lowly in spirit, to revive the spirit of the lowly and to revive the heart of the contrite'." I have read this verse before, but I don't think I've thought about it in the context of prayer. Isaiah is conveying the truth that our God is infinte and yet personal. The response of my heart to this text was, "Why? Why would God who resides in the splendor and majesty of the realm of glorious heaven also choose to be present with the broken, sorrowful, oppressed, crushed, and scared? The depressed, the outcast, the junkies in the backally, the homeless under the overpass, the abandoned, the messed up? What sense can we make of this? Isaiah tells us the "what" of what God does for those people; He restores and revives them. But why? Through this study of prayer I have come to believe that this is because both places -heaven and the broken- are where God's glory is most demonstratively displayed. In heaven, God rules and reigns supreme without limits and in His fullness. His full glory on display at all times. Where else do those aforementioned people have to go? And to whom else can they turn? Their ONLY hope is in that lofty God coming to their aid. And when He does, ALL glory is His. His strength made perfect in not only our weaknesses, but in our utter inability to do anything for ourselves. I heard a famous preacher once say that God deserves and desires glory more than anything else. In fact, God's ultimate end is the manifestation of His glory. So where else would he seek to reside but the holiness of heaven and the humbleness of human heart?
Thursday, January 12, 2012
Martin Luther King, Jr. Luncheon
One of the opportunities Tim had this week was performing what the Army calls an invocation at the Martin Luther King, Jr. Luncheon conducted by his brigade, the 525th BFSB. Tim has been acting-brigade chaplain for 2 months now, and this invocation is part of what the brigade chaplain would noramlly do. So, he had the privelege of reading a passage of Scripture and saying a prayer over the luncheon. He did a FABULOUS job! As I listened to the different speakers who performed readings from some of the writings of King's family and intimate friends, I was struck by how deeply spiritual a man he was. He was a minister, found himself constantly in prayer, and quoted the Bible daily. His overarching message was "We will overcome", yes, but also "We will overcome without violence." It was a wonderful time of reflection and rememberance.
Monday, January 2, 2012
Him
Because I never seem to say enough about him, here is an entire blog post dedicated entirely to that man of mine. My husband is fantastically one of a kind. God truly broke the mold after making him. Having spent the last 2 weeks with him (day in and day out) I am reminded of just how blessed I am to have him in my life. He has the brain of a genius, the brawn of a athelete, and the behavior of a REALLY nice guy. Everywhere, everyday I see evidences of just how wonderfully God made him. There is almost always alot of thought and effort that goes into his actions (whether or not I can see it at the time!). And if I can't figure something out, you can bet your sweet bottom that HE can! He has the amazing ability to think of things that, even if given a month, I would never think of. During our deployment I grew to miss his ingenuity and get-it-done-ness all the more. And it has been SO nice to be able to say to myself, "Don't stress about it. Tim can fix it!" I have often called him my "Renaissance Man" because he knows something about just about everything. From rugby to computers, from cars to astronomy, from conservatism to physics, he is such a smart dude! Just today we were at the store together doing the mundane task of shopping for groceries (I love doing the mundane things of life with him...makes it so much more exciting!) when lo-and-behold he brings up quantum networking and tries to make an analogy between that and the neural pathways of the human body. I'm tellin' y'all, he's SMART!! And to boot, he is KING of coming in solid at crunch time; he rocks the 11th hour stuff! Me? Not so much...
But for all his brilliance, he also has the uncanny ability to slow me down, to decompress me, to make me "stop and smell the roses". I have a tendency to run, run, run until I drop and he keeps me balanced by encouraging me to take time for myself, to sit a little while, to relax. He endulges me in the things that are not "mission critical" to the home front but are entertaining and of interest to me alone. On this the 4th anniversary of my blog, I thought it fitting to write about the guy who seldom gets the credit but so often deserves it. I love you, Tim Raburn. Thank you for making me yours :-)
But for all his brilliance, he also has the uncanny ability to slow me down, to decompress me, to make me "stop and smell the roses". I have a tendency to run, run, run until I drop and he keeps me balanced by encouraging me to take time for myself, to sit a little while, to relax. He endulges me in the things that are not "mission critical" to the home front but are entertaining and of interest to me alone. On this the 4th anniversary of my blog, I thought it fitting to write about the guy who seldom gets the credit but so often deserves it. I love you, Tim Raburn. Thank you for making me yours :-)
Saturday, December 17, 2011
Christmas happenings
Merry Christmas!! The following is a picture/video storytelling of the"December happenings" of the Raburns. Starting with Jordan's preschool Christmas production...
This front row is Jordan and all her boy-friends...you see, she is the only girl in her preschool class. 8 boys, 1 girl!!Santa had just entered the Sanctuary as a result of the kids singing Jingle Bells. Ms. Jodi looks surprised as well!
Dylan and I posing for a picture by the tree. Yup, you guessed it...Jordan wouldn't sit still long enough to join us!
Some really cute footage. In true preschool performance fashion, she didn't sing but a few words and she mostly hammed it up and checked on her "friends" the whole time. Priceless! (Her teacher Ms. Nakisha -- or Ms. Sha-sha as Jordan calls her -- is on the left). The best part of the evening? DADDY WAS HERE!
Next, we had a "Happy Birthday Jesus" party for the kids in our neighborhood. We wished more kids could have made it, but we had a great time with the ones who came.
Kids gathered round to hear the Christmas story from the Bible.
Party guests enjoying a little playtime.
Playing "put baby Jesus in the manger" (in the fashion of "pin the tail on the donkey")
A round of Christmas carols led by the kids.
Chaplain reading the Christmas story.
Time for birthday cupcakes!
Happy Birthday Jesus!!
What a bunch of hams!!
Saturday, December 10, 2011
All in a week's work
What a week it's been! In the past 8 or 9 days alot has been happening on the homefront. For starters, I went into the garage one day to find a light brownish substance leaking from the front of my SUV toward the door of our garage. Yikes. Long story made shorter: the culprit ended up being the water pump. But thanks to our power train warranty (and the fact that we bought the vehicle new), we were only $20 out of pocket -- and that was just for the assessment estimate. We were so thankful to God that was all we had to pay, because the estimate came back with a total of more than $500 worth of work and parts!
Fastforward to 3 days later. A call to my husband to let him know I was on my way home went something like this: "Hey honey. How are you?" "I'm fine. I'M doing okay." "Okay, I'm almost home." "Okay, yeah. I'M alright, but my motorcycle's not..." Yeah, not the conversation that a wife wants to hear...EVER. Long story made shorter, again: A car pulled out in front of my husband leaving him little time to stop. He DID manage to stop, but not without laying his bike down. He walked away with little more than some road rash. Again, THANK GOD! The guy who pulled out in front of him did stop to check on him and assess the damages. And he's willing to pay for whatever it costs to fix the bike, since he knows he caused the accident.
Fastforward to the next day. A drive in my husband's car to a Christmas party left me scratching my head in regards to a noise I could hear coming from under the hood. When I pulled back into his parking space, I could see a puddle where his car had been leaking. Long story short: Power steering pump hose gone bad. Not bad for a vehicle with 150k+ miles on it. Again, we were given a $500 estimate. But again, God provided a cheaper way. A friend of a coworker has repaired it and we ended up paying less than half of the estimate.
In addition to this, our big girl moved into her big girl bed. This went surprisingly smooth in comparison to Dylan's transition. She LOVES her new bed and tries to show it to any visitors that come over.
Throw in a couple of Christmas parties and a preschool Christmas program and all of this adds up to a VERY busy week. However, the busyness is dying down and we are slowing down to reflect on the true meaning of Christmas. Last night we read "God Gave Us Christmas" around our tree and sang some Christmas carols. The kids thought that was alot of fun and recreated the event this morning upon awakening.
Something else cool happened this week. I accomplished what I never would have thought possible. I have been running alot this year, so much so that I am going to break the 200 mile mark before the year is out. But a 5k was about as far as I could go at any given time. However this week I slowed down my speed a bit and pushed myself distance-wise. I ended up running two 6.5-mile jaunts around Pope Army Airfield on two separate days. A total equaling a half-marathon!! It was pretty exciting to see what this thirty-something body is still capable of!
Fastforward to 3 days later. A call to my husband to let him know I was on my way home went something like this: "Hey honey. How are you?" "I'm fine. I'M doing okay." "Okay, I'm almost home." "Okay, yeah. I'M alright, but my motorcycle's not..." Yeah, not the conversation that a wife wants to hear...EVER. Long story made shorter, again: A car pulled out in front of my husband leaving him little time to stop. He DID manage to stop, but not without laying his bike down. He walked away with little more than some road rash. Again, THANK GOD! The guy who pulled out in front of him did stop to check on him and assess the damages. And he's willing to pay for whatever it costs to fix the bike, since he knows he caused the accident.
Fastforward to the next day. A drive in my husband's car to a Christmas party left me scratching my head in regards to a noise I could hear coming from under the hood. When I pulled back into his parking space, I could see a puddle where his car had been leaking. Long story short: Power steering pump hose gone bad. Not bad for a vehicle with 150k+ miles on it. Again, we were given a $500 estimate. But again, God provided a cheaper way. A friend of a coworker has repaired it and we ended up paying less than half of the estimate.
In addition to this, our big girl moved into her big girl bed. This went surprisingly smooth in comparison to Dylan's transition. She LOVES her new bed and tries to show it to any visitors that come over.
Throw in a couple of Christmas parties and a preschool Christmas program and all of this adds up to a VERY busy week. However, the busyness is dying down and we are slowing down to reflect on the true meaning of Christmas. Last night we read "God Gave Us Christmas" around our tree and sang some Christmas carols. The kids thought that was alot of fun and recreated the event this morning upon awakening.
Something else cool happened this week. I accomplished what I never would have thought possible. I have been running alot this year, so much so that I am going to break the 200 mile mark before the year is out. But a 5k was about as far as I could go at any given time. However this week I slowed down my speed a bit and pushed myself distance-wise. I ended up running two 6.5-mile jaunts around Pope Army Airfield on two separate days. A total equaling a half-marathon!! It was pretty exciting to see what this thirty-something body is still capable of!
Monday, November 28, 2011
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